As to the rest of your comment you weren't there... this part I can reply to. 'Macho/ incel stuff' were funny labels, as a man I would better fit the feminist mold emotionally.
For me going my own way was all about my physical health more than anything else. I lost 15kg (33 pounds), my cholesterol became normal in a few months after about 8 years on meds (doctor took me off my medication), my blood pressure is now normal and my panic attacks seem to have gone since I stopped romantically chasing 'the one'; I suspect from the lower stress level. Physically I have never felt better, at work I no longer care about chasing dollars, and mentally am so focused on my goals (am currently planning on a new degree as I'm a bit bored).
In going celibate I learnt so much; not that I had much option early on as my sex drive just ended (was at least daily release all my life). It returned but naturally it was deadened to a similar level as the female sex drive; I couldn't care less about sex or romance anymore.
This I miss sometimes as I do remember the feeling, especially the romance/ sacrifice side of love. It reminds me of addiction and remembering the delight that using used to bring; the addiction will use you and discard you when you can no longer afford it or get weak enough not to be of use to those supplying it.