I have a problem that can only be described as the drama of a poorly written soap opera. Forgive the wall of text this will be to explain everything.
I recently had a falling out with a model. We’ve known one another for over a year, and I was her knight for the last 6 months. Not long after she knighted me one of her other knights claimed I did something I didn’t do. He claimed I told him we were dating in PMs, and I was her boyfriend. The model of course was lividly pissed because, from her point of view, it appeared as if I was being possessive, crazy, and trying to ruin her ability to make money. At the time I was able to smooth things over and even showed her willingly my PM’s that I had with the other knight.
I’d like to clarify; that the conversations I had with him started with him congratulating me on being knighted. He volunteered information about himself (age, location) but nothing that plenty of people don’t put in their profiles to begin with. He asked me for similar things (name, age, part of the country I live) things that I didn’t consider classified information, most of it was in my profile to begin with. At the time I didn’t see anything wrong with talking to him. We both spent a lot of time with the model in her room, and as knights we had to moderate her chat. I figured getting along with him was probably a good thing. We’re supposed to be on the same team supporting the same model, right?
He used the information to make his claim seem more valid. Like my username and my real name didn’t match, but the model knew my real first name. Him knowing my first name proved we had PM’ed (which I didn’t deny) but I had to then prove I didn’t say the things he claimed. She accepted my side of events but lectured me not to talk to ‘anyone’ from her chat anymore, at all. And like a good soldier, I haven’t. I think in the last 6 months I had 2 random friend requests the entire time, both of which I declined. I only post 'tip the model' and 'favorite her' bumps in her public chat. I talk to her directly in PMs or during our privates normally.
Now we come to the problem. You can’t prove you didn’t say something in a PM. I can delete my message after you read it. From a burden of proof perspective, I can’t actually ‘prove’ my innocence. At the time the model believed me. Fast forward to today. The model claims two more people made the same claim against me in December. Claiming I’m sending them a bunch of friend requests and messages, harassing them, and telling them I’m her boyfriend. I’m not. I asked the model to ask the clients accusing me for any proof. To her the multiple claims are proof. That this has now happened three times and it's three against one. She did promise she would ask for proof, but in the end, she doesn’t believe me because I can’t prove I didn’t. How do I prove I didn’t send something?
I attempted via support to ask if there was a way to get my own logged PMs. Basically, could I have someone show I’m not making the PM’s they claimed? I was told no.
Now this is where I am going to sound… like I’m a conspiracy theorist. I think this is all the same other knight’s doing. He is a whale, red ranked, 80+. He could easily afford to make and level up some silver / gold tier accounts just to try and set me up. Now I know everyone reading this has no reason to believe me either. There’s plenty of men who will say they are innocent of a crime while still holding evidence of their crime literally in their hand.
The model asked me to apologize to her and stop doing it. Which to me… is impossible because I didn’t do it in the first place. Yes, I could apologize. I could sincerely say I’m sorry all she wants. If it would fix things between us, I’d happily do it. What stops someone from making the same claim tomorrow? What prevents a ‘4th’ person from coming forward? I didn’t do it the first time…
-sigh-
What is it I’m supposed to actually do in this situation? I can’t prove my innocence, not 100%. The model presumes my guilt due to more than one user claiming it. And it feels like this manipulative other knight is going to win. I know I can’t force her to believe me. I just don’t like the idea that after a year of building a good friendship with her it can all be thrown away over this.
In the end, I feel like my only option is to accept defeat.
To anyone that took the time to read it all, thank you for your time.
I recently had a falling out with a model. We’ve known one another for over a year, and I was her knight for the last 6 months. Not long after she knighted me one of her other knights claimed I did something I didn’t do. He claimed I told him we were dating in PMs, and I was her boyfriend. The model of course was lividly pissed because, from her point of view, it appeared as if I was being possessive, crazy, and trying to ruin her ability to make money. At the time I was able to smooth things over and even showed her willingly my PM’s that I had with the other knight.
I’d like to clarify; that the conversations I had with him started with him congratulating me on being knighted. He volunteered information about himself (age, location) but nothing that plenty of people don’t put in their profiles to begin with. He asked me for similar things (name, age, part of the country I live) things that I didn’t consider classified information, most of it was in my profile to begin with. At the time I didn’t see anything wrong with talking to him. We both spent a lot of time with the model in her room, and as knights we had to moderate her chat. I figured getting along with him was probably a good thing. We’re supposed to be on the same team supporting the same model, right?
He used the information to make his claim seem more valid. Like my username and my real name didn’t match, but the model knew my real first name. Him knowing my first name proved we had PM’ed (which I didn’t deny) but I had to then prove I didn’t say the things he claimed. She accepted my side of events but lectured me not to talk to ‘anyone’ from her chat anymore, at all. And like a good soldier, I haven’t. I think in the last 6 months I had 2 random friend requests the entire time, both of which I declined. I only post 'tip the model' and 'favorite her' bumps in her public chat. I talk to her directly in PMs or during our privates normally.
Now we come to the problem. You can’t prove you didn’t say something in a PM. I can delete my message after you read it. From a burden of proof perspective, I can’t actually ‘prove’ my innocence. At the time the model believed me. Fast forward to today. The model claims two more people made the same claim against me in December. Claiming I’m sending them a bunch of friend requests and messages, harassing them, and telling them I’m her boyfriend. I’m not. I asked the model to ask the clients accusing me for any proof. To her the multiple claims are proof. That this has now happened three times and it's three against one. She did promise she would ask for proof, but in the end, she doesn’t believe me because I can’t prove I didn’t. How do I prove I didn’t send something?
I attempted via support to ask if there was a way to get my own logged PMs. Basically, could I have someone show I’m not making the PM’s they claimed? I was told no.
Now this is where I am going to sound… like I’m a conspiracy theorist. I think this is all the same other knight’s doing. He is a whale, red ranked, 80+. He could easily afford to make and level up some silver / gold tier accounts just to try and set me up. Now I know everyone reading this has no reason to believe me either. There’s plenty of men who will say they are innocent of a crime while still holding evidence of their crime literally in their hand.
The model asked me to apologize to her and stop doing it. Which to me… is impossible because I didn’t do it in the first place. Yes, I could apologize. I could sincerely say I’m sorry all she wants. If it would fix things between us, I’d happily do it. What stops someone from making the same claim tomorrow? What prevents a ‘4th’ person from coming forward? I didn’t do it the first time…
-sigh-
What is it I’m supposed to actually do in this situation? I can’t prove my innocence, not 100%. The model presumes my guilt due to more than one user claiming it. And it feels like this manipulative other knight is going to win. I know I can’t force her to believe me. I just don’t like the idea that after a year of building a good friendship with her it can all be thrown away over this.
In the end, I feel like my only option is to accept defeat.
To anyone that took the time to read it all, thank you for your time.
