I know a lot of clients are into dirty talk (in general) - joi being a big one. I just don't feel comfortable offering it/doing it because I know I'm not very good at it. I've always been a sub and I feel like that's why I'm so awkward with it. I think of it as a skill and I feel it's better to leave that to the pros! Maybe in a video though...? Hmmm...
Anybody else feel this way? Or is it just better to always be adding to your offerings as a cam-model?
Thank you! Great adviceIt's smart to research and educate yourself on the various things you might encounter as a camgirl, but you don't have to DO anything you're not into or comfortable with. If you're a sub you can still be plenty naughty, teasing, and dirty talking, and no need to feel you have to be something you're not. In fact that can work against you as true fetishists will see through you if you're acting. But you can use skills and interests you already have to switch something round yo your way of doing things - for example i am not at all dominant, but i offer sensual domination which is more about subtle manipulation through the senses, mind play, getting people addicted to you rather than ordering them around. When i've tried to be dominating, bitchy etc in the past i felt silly, akward, and the guy went away disappointed, but if i add my own twist to it and don't profess to be something im not, it works. So explore your sexuality, enjoy the new learning your shows and videos bring you. But don't feel you ever have to do something you don't like or don't feel you'd be good at. Stay true to you and work on being GREAT at what you do enjoy
Ah! That makes sense. I hadn't thought of it that way I guess! Thank youIf you're a service-oriented type of submissive - think of it as a skill you can learn to please the person you're with. If you're ever with a Dom who enjoys dirty talk, it will be an asset to you
Don't think that because you're a sub it makes you awkward with dirty talk. I'm deeply submissive and dirty talk is something i've always enjoyed.
I specialise in sensual joi, it's incredibly hot to build such intimacy with a stranger.. plus it gets them addicted to you pretty quick if you're good lol.
I meant compared to other types of videos, not in absolute terms. Most guys don't require that much imagination!Actually, it's very tricky, @marchards - you need enough of an imagination/anticipation for what the person will like. I could never really do it well, but I'm fascinated at how some are SOOO good at it.
It's just reading people, using active listening skills, having a genuine interest in giving them pleasure, and being turned on by the fact they're stroking for you. For the more Dom ladies there may be pleasure in the control aspect, teasing/torturing him into wanking a certain way, denying or threatening Denial, cum Countdowns etc. For the more sensual it might involve a recreation of a real event or role-playing what would happen if they were together now (I. E imagine me down there, using the tip of my tongue like this, ok now tease your fingertip over the foreskin.. that feel good? ) As with anything I think it's something you have to enjoy to be really good atActually, it's very tricky, @marchards - you need enough of an imagination/anticipation for what the person will like. I could never really do it well, but I'm fascinated at how some are SOOO good at it.
Yea, "Just"It's just reading people, using active listening skills, having a genuine interest in giving them pleasure, and being turned on by the fact they're strokingfor you.
If you want to read some story examples, there's a tag on Literotica for JOI.
http://tags.literotica.com/joi
do you prefer to do them in private or public?I specialise in sensual joi, it's incredibly hot to build such intimacy with a stranger.. plus it gets them addicted to you pretty quick if you're good lol.
go to Miss_rae, tip 180 tokens, and that's the best explanation i could offer. She is amazingwould some one here please explain to me what is Joi "Jerk Off Instructions."