Do you think its ok to break up with someone via text?

[Guy]

Do you think its ok to break up with someone via text?

 

[Gen]

It's disrespectful, only okay within the first few dates/weeks, but at that point it's not really "breaking up" imo

 

[JickyJuly]

If you have slept with them or told them you love them, text is not a mature option. Just been on a few dates and not interested in going further, I think text is fine. Better than ghosting at least.

 

[Empress Mika]

Yes, absolutely. I'd be able to look back at the fact that they broke up via text to confirm that they weren't right for Me in the first place and have 0 second thoughts about it. Though, I'd like to think that I wouldn't give the chance to this type of person... but I suppose life is full of surprises.

But! For Me personally, no, I wouldn't do that to someone.

 

[Magnolia]

Fuck no and fuck people who do this.

 

[zippypinhead]

I once had a girlfriend break up with me by blocking my texts. I would say some final word is better than nothing.

 

[CharlieCharma]

Yes. If they're abusive, unpredictable, have a temper, were a short term thing, or won't take the break up as truth then definitely break up with them via text.

 

[Guy]

If I was in a relationship, It would be worse for me to be dumped in person or over the phone than through text or email.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Yikes. No, I'd feel like that's taking the lazy way out, and that it's something I'd need to do via phone call or face-to-face. I would feel bad doing it via text message. Plus, it wouldn't feel "official."

 

[MDouble00]

Echoing some of the other replies I think if you're still in the handful of dates range or even a couple of hookups into it. That it's okay to break it off by text. I feel like once you've defined that you are in a relationship that is more than casual then a text wouldn't be okay.

That said

If I was in a relationship, It would be worse for me to be dumped in person or over the phone than through text or email.

There have been a couple of times in my life where I definitely would have preferred to not have to take it on the chin and the heart in person.

 

[Dan Epstein]

There are exceptions.
When the person you break up with is harmful to you, and yes it can happen to guys too.
Been there once. It's not my go to option, but when it's unsafe, it's unsafe, not necessarily cruel.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

There are exceptions.
When the person you break up with is harmful to you, and yes it can happen to guys too.
Been there once. It's not my go to option, but when it's unsafe, it's unsafe, not necessarily cruel.

Agreed that there are some more extreme situations (would still recommend bringing someone with as protection rather than text, but again depends on the level of extreme we're talkin'). On the whole it's better to confront them to be respectful of their feelings.

Both are better than ghosting at least, though I feel texting isn't far off from that.

 

[Dan Epstein]

Agreed that there are some more extreme situations (would still recommend bringing someone with as protection rather than text, but again depends on the level of extreme we're talkin'). On the whole it's better to confront them to be respectful of their feelings.

Both are better than ghosting at least, though I feel texting isn't far off from that.

True, given my bad experience I know this much, if the person you break up with is capable of harm, it's better to text, e-mail , or even paper mail, and request not to be contacted anymore.
Once an escalated conflict begins, the truth value of what you say decreases, and you can easily be harmed, even if you did nothing wrong. My tip is aimed at both genders by the way.

 

[JerryBoBerry]

 

[sexyvanessa4u]

I think it's cowardly. I think it's only okay if you've only been on one or two casual dates, and haven't slept together or met each other's family or anything serious like that. I had a boyfriend in high school break up with me via a note passed to me through a mutual friend-I think that's similar to texting. He pressured me to sleep with him, but luckily I didn't. lol

 

[WickedTouch]

The only time I could say that splitting up via text might be acceptable, would be if you had been on only 1 or 2 low key dates. If you have a relationship that's gone deeper than that, I would say it's cowardly to use text to cut someone adrift. The best way would be to sit down and try to have an adult face to face conversation about it... not always possible I know, but it would be the mature path to take.

Personally, I seem to get on OK with most of my exes... I still get some Christmas and birthday cards from ladies from my past. It's good if you can manage to remain civil and part as friends, rather than becoming bitter and resentful and lobbing insults at each other. I feel it's best to try to focus more on the good times, the stuff that kept you together as a couple rather than the things that may have caused you to drift apart. To paraphrase an old quote... "don't shed a tear because it's over, just smile because it happened."

 

[Neorulez]

I have done it over text message with my online boyfriend. I mean it is okay in my opinion to do it on some occasions though if they live nearby, you can definitely tell them in person. If not text shall suffice definitely if they are unable to video chat with you so you can tell them you are breaking up.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

I don't agree with giving news to someone via text unless there are some very extenuating circumstances. I believe the right thing to do is to either meet and tell them in person (safety first of course!). Or, give them a call and explain in person. We're all adults, so we should be able to deliver this news and possibly provide an explanation if asked or feel like it. Similarly, we should be able to accept it maturely as an adult.