On the other end of the spectrum, they also make "snug fit" condoms for smaller/narrower penises. Penis ego be damned, if the condom is too big, it can slip off, and you don't want that, it's a very good way to catch something or get someone pregnant.
Hell yes. Anything over a few inches away from the average needs to be using a different size. I have never seen snug fit condoms sold in a shop, unfortunately while some men will buy the larger size, the ego around penis sizes means they're less likely to buy the smaller ones. I remember someone going on dragons den to push the idea of selling sized condoms online. The dragons didn't want to invest as they couldn't imagine any man buying a condom designed for smaller penises. It's sad because it's actually a requirement, but investors aren't interested because it's too risky. I think it's a brilliant idea. I think it's pretty harsh that if you're smaller than a certain size every time you use a condom you're basically taking a risk. Sex is for everyone, not just for people who fit within 1 standard deviation.
Oh, another tip for men- If you are using a condom and orgasm too quickly, please don't try to "continue" out of embarrassment. Your semi flaccid penis is not giving the woman any extra pleasure, you are risking her safety by continuing. I have been in this situation and have been confused as to whether the man has actually finished which has resulted in me having to deal with the fuck up. Not only do condoms leak and slip off when full, condoms are not designed to stay on flaccid penises. Same goes if a guy goes limp during sex. Far more shame in continuing and allowing the condom to slip off than in finishing early or having to stop.
Without even thinking about STI's, pregnancy is no joke, not only is it still potentially life threatening for the woman if she goes through with it, it comes with a whole load of potential physical and psychological fuck ups which can last a life time. This is worth it if you want a child, but not cool if it comes from your sexual partner being careless. Abortions are a safer method medically speaking but still come with all sorts of complications, including the fact that the first trimester in many ways is the hardest in terms of being ill and fatigued. It's easy to think of the fear of having a child, but having to go through an unwanted pregnancy is not something to be fucked around with.
That depends on the circumstances though - when I heard about this being a thing, I researched to see what is the "protocol" here in Switzerland and based on what I could find, there's three approaches:
- no tests, good luck to everyone involved (based on my search results, this seems to be a rare option, both in offer and demand)
- both client and sex worker get tested frequently and share test results (and on the gay side of the equation, there seems to be a strong push from the sex workers that anyone wanting bareback sex must also be on PrEP). This one seemed more popular (just based on volume of discussion) even though it has the additional cost of testing involved.
- for events such as orgies/parties, everyone involved must either provide their test results or, in some cases, they have fast testing available in the venue. And if anyone wants to join without any test results at all, it will depend on the party terms - they either will not be allowed to join or they will be required to use condoms.
I'm kinda wary of this because it wouldn't be hard to fake a test result. Personally I wouldn't even know how to prove it was real or not. I imagine in swinging societies there would be less reason to lie as there tends to be a bit more mutual respect involved, but in the industry of buying and selling sex, respect for the other person seems to be lower.
I made an account on adultwork years ago as I considered camming there, I got a lot of "bareback" requests even though I wasn't advertising as an escort. I didn't get any sense that any of them were going to provide test results or were expecting me to. My time spent sugaring I would also come across guys who would specify in the first few messages they didn't ever want to use condoms. Always nice to hear someone you've never met before telling you they want to cum inside you. Lovely image... I didn't ever get a sense that they wanted to see any proof from me of testing or that they were going to provide tests. While I am sure many of these types went to what they considered "amateurs" for this reason, it does show how relaxed some people are about the idea of catching STI's.
Also, seeing as HIV can take 6 months to come up on a test it seems pretty risky to go on test results alone. Someone could have knowingly slept with someone with HIV and still have a negative test result. Test results are a good idea in general, but it kind of seems like using the "pull out method" to avoid pregnancy. A complete gamble.
