Customer wanted advice for his 18yo daughter

[Trixxi_Love]

I want to get some opinions on an interaction I had the other day. I am still new to camming and am very much aware of and opposed to any sort of age / family type of play / role play.

The other night the member starts a private (group chat mode) and starts typing a SAD story about how he is a dad who doesn’t know what to do. I have thought about this a bit and I honestly must admit this man may have been completely lying and ALSO may have some perverted thoughts about his daughter himself. That said I tried to be polite and helpful.

He told me a disturbing story that his daughter wants to get into adult work. To that I said she is 18 and having your parental support is great, she could make a livable income safe at home ... BUT then he brought up the fact that apparently his daughter is dating her old cheer coach who is similar age as him.

I am afraid just typing / chatting with this man and hearing his story could get me banned. I told him to focus on helping his daughter see financial possibilities and become liberated from her relationship with coach. I honestly don’t know how real his story is.

I personally cannot imagine an 18 year old wanting to be with a 53 yo making porno videos ... especially as the dad said it was “coach’s” idea and coach is one wanting to get her into adult work. This made me feel so sorry for the girl, and angry at these older males in her life taking advantage of her. I do want to see this woman liberated and able to afford her own apartment away from dad.

I am just thoroughly disturbed by it. I wonder if Coach / Dad is the same person or not. This could be totally made up scenario. But it reminds me of when I was 18 I was completely vulnerable and lacked much hindsight to know better and could have gotten myself into such a situation. I don’t know if dad was getting off to me feeling so sorry for the daughter.

how should I have handled this better? How would you have responded?

Thankfully it ended when more users came into private group chat that did want a sexual content show not just chat and then “dad” left. If Dad’s story was true: was I breaking a rule corresponding about this? I really don’t want to get into any trouble when I felt I was trying to be helpful but then blindsided by this disturbing story

 

[AudriTwo]

When someone starts talking about their family on a porn site, I do not indulge. I tell them I don't want to have this conversation because this is an inappropriate place to do so.

Fuck being polite. If a conversation is making you uncomfortable, end it. Too bad if you hurt their feelings. They didn't consider how their story could negatively impact yours, or that could of been their goal. Make you uncomfortable. And if someone is paying you to listen to their bullshit, you can stop anytime. When someone is in a paid show and is pushing boundaries or being incredibly inappropriate, I tell them the show is over and will sit still until they leave the show or others join in for me to focus on

 

[Trixxi_Love]

When someone starts talking about their family on a porn site, I do not indulge. I tell them I don't want to have this conversation because this is an inappropriate place to do so.

Fuck being polite. If a conversation is making you uncomfortable, end it. Too bad if you hurt their feelings. They didn't consider how their story could negatively impact yours, or that could of been their goal. Make you uncomfortable. And if someone is paying you to listen to their bullshit, you can stop anytime. When someone is in a paid show and is pushing boundaries or being incredibly inappropriate, I tell them the show is over and will sit still until they leave the show or others join in for me to focus on

I really appreciate this advice and will use it whenever I get such a situation again. Your insights are great

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Yeah I would refer to a therapist who specializes in sex work and remind him that my job is not to provide consulting or counseling, nor am I qualified for it.

 

[englishmuffins]

The guy sounds like he was fishing for a fantasy, hoping you would play into it. I agree with @AudriTwo. Anytime there is a member talking about family members in a sexual manner or direction (be it in free chat or paid chat), I verbally tell them that is not ok and/or it is against TOS. I ban them and report it. But I do think it is extremely important to vocally say or type out that you are not comfortable or that their topic goes against TOS, just so that way you are covered and protecting yourself.

What an asshat of human.

 

[Trixxi_Love]

Thank you for this advice ! I will definitely avoid this topic especially I know for my own well being I cannot tolerate any of that type of discussion. I love your advice to type AND say that is against the TOS. I don’t want to allow someone to disturb me for any amount money. Any future discussion of family members I will suggest counseling, warn / inform about the TOS and then block. I am so wishing I blocked him immediately but I think I can remember who he was and the day it happened and then look back and block because he was a paid customer and I kind of remember the username.

 

[MarieElise]

Thank you for this advice ! I will definitely avoid this topic especially I know for my own well being I cannot tolerate any of that type of discussion. I love your advice to type AND say that is against the TOS. I don’t want to allow someone to disturb me for any amount money. Any future discussion of family members I will suggest counseling, warn / inform about the TOS and then block. I am so wishing I blocked him immediately but I think I can remember who he was and the day it happened and then look back and block because he was a paid customer and I kind of remember the username.

I highly doubt this is a real situation, like others said it's his fantasy. He's probably getting off on low key knowing he is pushing the boundaries and making you uncomfy too. A lot of people like that are attracted to this industry. Block him for sure, you don't need to explain, justify or even respond in the future. You can just block immediately and move on with your night. It's freeing I block people like that immediately and then immediately use the report function to type out "incest fantasy" and/ or "having sexual fantasies about own daughter", so SM support knows via that report function.

Whether it's real or not (I highly doubt it was) it's obnoxious and creepy for him to be bothering you with that, given the context. Don't take that shit. You shouldn't have to be troubled with it. Plus it will put some normal guys off from buying shows if some guy is in your room going off like that without being checked/ silenced.

 

[yummybrownfox]

When someone starts talking about their family on a porn site, I do not indulge. I tell them I don't want to have this conversation because this is an inappropriate place to do so.

Fuck being polite. If a conversation is making you uncomfortable, end it. Too bad if you hurt their feelings. They didn't consider how their story could negatively impact yours, or that could of been their goal. Make you uncomfortable. And if someone is paying you to listen to their bullshit, you can stop anytime. When someone is in a paid show and is pushing boundaries or being incredibly inappropriate, I tell them the show is over and will sit still until they leave the show or others join in for me to focus on

All of this...plus Happy Birthday, Audri!

 

[Deleted member 55529]

Girl this is not real, he is fapping into a fantasy. Sick.

 

[InAweOfCB]

Yeah, there is minimal chance that the crux of that story is real.


A respectable "father" in such a scenario, would NOT be seeking solace from others on a porn site.


It's OK if dad is heavily into porn... and it's OK if daughter does sex work... but the kind of a father whose own porn usage was so non-secretive that it influenced daughter's path that way, probably wouldn't give much of a "F" what daughter did.

 

[thinkinboutit]

Even if this WAS real (which it 10000% is not) , it would be totally inappropriate to bother you with it.
Dude is a nasty POS.

Over time you learn to spot these before they get going. As everyone else said, mentioning a family member AT ALL is a red flag. Another is when they start off with "have you ever [something mundane or mildly embarassing] ? " I'm sure everyone has an example of these

 

[Diana_Devil]

I want to get some opinions on an interaction I had the other day. I am still new to camming and am very much aware of and opposed to any sort of age / family type of play / role play.

The other night the member starts a private (group chat mode) and starts typing a SAD story about how he is a dad who doesn’t know what to do. I have thought about this a bit and I honestly must admit this man may have been completely lying and ALSO may have some perverted thoughts about his daughter himself. That said I tried to be polite and helpful.

He told me a disturbing story that his daughter wants to get into adult work. To that I said she is 18 and having your parental support is great, she could make a livable income safe at home ... BUT then he brought up the fact that apparently his daughter is dating her old cheer coach who is similar age as him.

I am afraid just typing / chatting with this man and hearing his story could get me banned. I told him to focus on helping his daughter see financial possibilities and become liberated from her relationship with coach. I honestly don’t know how real his story is.

I personally cannot imagine an 18 year old wanting to be with a 53 yo making porno videos ... especially as the dad said it was “coach’s” idea and coach is one wanting to get her into adult work. This made me feel so sorry for the girl, and angry at these older males in her life taking advantage of her. I do want to see this woman liberated and able to afford her own apartment away from dad.

I am just thoroughly disturbed by it. I wonder if Coach / Dad is the same person or not. This could be totally made up scenario. But it reminds me of when I was 18 I was completely vulnerable and lacked much hindsight to know better and could have gotten myself into such a situation. I don’t know if dad was getting off to me feeling so sorry for the daughter.

how should I have handled this better? How would you have responded?

Thankfully it ended when more users came into private group chat that did want a sexual content show not just chat and then “dad” left. If Dad’s story was true: was I breaking a rule corresponding about this? I really don’t want to get into any trouble when I felt I was trying to be helpful but then blindsided by this disturbing story

OMGGG DO NOT FALL FOR THIS !!!!!

when i used to do privates i had a private on chaturbate with exactelly same storry as you decribe it !!!!!!!!! exactelly the same !!!! AND THIS WAS 3 YEARS AGO!!!!!!!!!!

I banned him on chaturbate and he came in my stripchat took private with the same story ( after 1 week))!!!!