Can you tell when someone asking a question is ready for a truthful answer?

[SMuser69]

I think this comes from both sides. What are the vibes you get from either members or models when a question is asked, they are asking for a real answer vs just an opening for fake praise or gratification?

Like how do you tell as a model, if they want the dick rating to be the truth or fantasy?

When a model is losing her regulars and ask one of them if there's something wrong or some that can be changed?

I'm really don't like paying for drama so I avoid these situations like a plague but sometimes you've been working with the same person so long you feel maybe they want the truth but find out they aren't ready at all for it or are completely disconnected themselves from the reality of the situation.

I guess the simple question is, if you ask a question, do you expect the truth or do you worry you've created a situation where people are not allowed to be honest at all with you?

 

[AudriTwo]

I very rarely expect the truth from members. As cynical as it is too many people have made empty promises or tried to cause unnecessary drama with me. But i have asked for some regs who thoughts on my content/handle my room because i wanted their perspective to help improve or get content ideas.

If someone asks for your opinion, and they have a problem with it, that's on them. I went to art school so im in the belief when someone is asking for criticism to help improve, give it to them. Keep it constructive. Its not like you are sending her a google doc camsplaining to her unsolicitedly.

 

[Smoothie]

I very rarely expect the truth from members. As cynical as it is too many people have made empty promises or tried to cause unnecessary drama with me. But i have asked for some regs who thoughts on my content/handle my room because i wanted their perspective to help improve or get content ideas.

If someone asks for your opinion, and they have a problem with it, that's on them. I went to art school so im in the belief when someone is asking for criticism to help improve, give it to them. Keep it constructive. Its not like you are sending her a google doc camsplaining to her unsolicitedly.

Keeping it constructive certainly helps. If you suspect you might need to walk on eggshells with somebody due to their personality (or yours), but they’re also genuinely asking for honest feedback, that’s the way to go.

I’ve been asked for suggestions and tips from a member perspective before. I try to keep it kind, but honest, and limit it to what I observe as a member (not my place to advise a model on anything but my own experience).

If the picture is dark, for example, I may ask if there are ways to brighten it, but I won’t say “your lighting is bad.” First of all, I have no idea what lighting is in the model’s room. Even if I did, it’s better to let the model investigate what may be resulting in a dark picture.

On my side, if I ask someone for feedback on my work, I hope for honesty, but I don’t always expect it. Some people are afraid of offending you. Some will intentionally be too harsh for their own reasons. Gotta weigh your responses and grade them on a curve that takes into account who gave the feedback, and what their motivations and experiences are.

 

[Vixxen81]

When someone asks me a personal question, I ask them if they want the cam model answer or the real person answer. They always choose poorly. LOL

That said, I don't ask for feedback or ideas for shows, because it becomes obligate and I'm just not that kind of person. If you tell me I *have* to do something specific to keep your attention, I absolutely will not. Call it oppositional defiance if you must.

Someone wants a dick rating? Oh yes that's gorgeous, or, perfect dick for anal bb. A guy can't change the way his penis looks and there is zero reason to crush their fragile egos with such criticism. And SPH is pretty much not allowed on CB. Because everyone takes it too far and then sits in the doghouse on a ban.

 

[LilyLaughing]

When I do a dick rating, I always ask up front to pick the style: praise, humiliation, or honest. This is massively helpful / required for me to do it to the best of my ability.

As for other questions, it really depends on so many factors whether I give the truth (usually because I've got a pretty 'down to earth' vibe) or a fantasy type answer. Sometimes it's easy to tell based on how "thirsty" they are for an answer, or context clues like things they said before/username/etc... Sometimes I get it wrong, occasionally have lost customers for getting it wrong, but I try not to be too hard on myself when this happens. Men really do think we have a crystal ball sometimes (and I mean this IRL too not just cam clients!).