A very tricky situation...

[Butterflies_forever]

For some time, I have wanted to become a cam girl. The only thing that has ever stopped me from going forward with this desire is, you guessed it, my parents.
I live at home currently, and would never be able to afford to live on my own in the near future (do not currently have a job). The location where I live has ridiculous rent prices, and I am not the type of person who would feel comfortable living in a sharehouse.
In the past, I have brought up the idea of camming to my mother, and it has always been a terrible reaction.
She will often say things like 'I thought you were out of your immature crazy stage, doing camming would just be going backwards' and of course, the worst reply ever received 'No! You're not allowed to do it! If I catch you doing it, you will be banned from the internet!' (By the way, I am 22 years old >.>")
I have thought about doing it in secrecy, at night in my bedroom when I know my parents are asleep. But I don't even know if I could purchase a webcam without her getting angry with me. If she heard me talking, she would surely come in to investigate.
Has anyone ever had a similar problem before? If so, how did you overcome it?
Thanks for your time

 

[LilyMarie]

As a fellow 22 year old who cams from her family's apartment - it works, but prepare to be caught, and prepare to have to lie to your parents over and over again. You'll quickly find out if it's worth the trouble. For me, it's more than worth it.

I'll tell you my story to give you an image of what you'll have to deal with if you decide to start camming without your parents' consent under their roof and to explain to you why it makes sense for me to be a camgirl against all odds.

I started on MFC in August 2011 without telling my mother about it (there's no father in my story ). I quit my call center job after 3 weeks on MFC because it just didn't make sense to continue doing something I didn't enjoy for little money, when I could focus on MFC instead. In October '11, my mother went through my bag and found bank statements from MFC. That's how I had to admit what I'd been doing. I told her back then that I already quit after a few weeks of camming because it wasn't my thing. I kept doing it. I cammed at night when she and my brother were sleeping, and sometimes during the day on days I didn't have to go to school, when my mom was at work and my brother at school. In March she found bank statements again, by going through my handbag again.

That's where the real lies started. I told her I had money from MFC on my bank account because I'd been receiving huge offline tips from one wealthy guy I met on MFC during my time there. I said all the money came from offline tips and that I'd never actually cammed again. My mother told me to tell the tipper to stop it and to 'not give me any more money'. I told her I would do that.
Because I could still afford to buy things without ever having a job, she always remained suspicious, always.
At the end of 2012, she went through my bag once again and found bank statements with MFC on them, and there was way too much money in my account, and I had to explain to her that I'd gotten offline tips from this guy throughout the whole year. - This is what she currently believes. She thinks I just had this one sugar daddy type of guy who kept offline tipping me to care for me. She thinks that's where all the money always came from.
She's not OK with the thought of me camming at all, and it took all the acting skills I could find in me to be able to convince her that I don't actually cam but only get offline tips.
Now, when I say 'she went through my bag again' it doesn't sound like much, but it always ended in screaming and tears and me desperately making up new details about this 'offline tipper' so she wouldn't think I was still camming.


Then - apart from having an explanation for where your money comes from - there's lots of little things you have to take care of, of course.
* Don't leave your bank statements lying around. Don't leave them in your bag. Don't be stupid like me.
* Don't buy underwear that's too sexy if you use your family's washing machine. You won't be able to explain a corset or something.
* You can't have a lighting kit or a whiteboard or other big, unhideable objects that are absolutely essential for many camgirls.
* Lock your door at night. It's not only bad if your mother comes into your room while you're actually masturbating - if she hears you talking, comes in, and you're just sitting there with a full face of make-up and not wearing much else, you'll have some explaining to do. My go-to excuse if this should ever happen will be that I'm skyping with my S.O. I don't even have a key for my door, I have to pull the bed in front of the door before a shift.
* Don't let anyone use your computer under any circumstances. Come up with excuses for why they can't use it ('I'm preparing something for Christmas/your birthday/a surprise, and I can't risk you seeing it!'; actually prepare something). If you leave your room, lock your computer so people have to enter a password to get to it. - Soon, you'll have naked/half-naked pictures of yourself everywhere, you'll have camsites (or this forum ) in your bookmarks or among your frequently visited sites, you'll have graphics your made for your profile somewhere, you'll basically have camming stuff all over your PC if you take camming seriously. Believe me.)
* Don't leave things like raffle tickets or toys lying around, no matter how tired or lazy you are after a shift. Hide them. Lock them away.


This is one huge big fat lie that I've been keeping up, and if I didn't know in my heart that camming is the right thing for me and that it makes me happy as fuck, I wouldn't be able to do this to my mother. I keep hoping that she'll come around someday. She met a model friend and her boyfriend when they were visiting me last year and we all chatted for a couple hours. I think that got her closer to believing that cam models are actually normal people, but she's faaar from accepting the thought of her own daughter doing that. She might never accept it.

So why do I still do this, even though it's wrong to lie to your parents, even though it would make her unhappy if she knew and even though it puts me under loads of stress and I'm actually worried about leaving the house when my family's at home?
Because, like I said, it makes me happy and I wouldn't want to miss it for anything. I can NOT imagine a better job for me while I'm still going to school. I'll keep doing this to save money and be able to stand on my own feet until I finish my studies (English Studies and Germanistics) and find a job as a translator that pays well, and then there won't be a secret anymore. That's the perfect scenario I'm imagining. It could all end horribly with me and my mother, too.
But camming has changed my life, and to be honest I wouldn't give it up even if my mother kicked me out of the house.

You'll have to find out if keeping up a lie and a secret life in front of your parents' nose is worth the trouble and you should be able to tell after a month or two of camming.

 

[Kunra9]

^^ That was one of the most interesting posts I've ever read on this board.

I already hit the "thanks" button, but seriously thank you so much for sharing that!

 

[LilyMarie]

^^ That was one of the most interesting posts I've ever read on this board.

I already hit the "thanks" button, but seriously thank you so much for sharing that!

Thanks a lot, I appreciate that! I'm surprised people who are not the OP even read this overly long post.

 

[EdgarAllenWhoa]

Thanks a lot, I appreciate that! I'm surprised people who are not the OP even read this overly long post.

Why?? that's a GREAT post. I read it and its a REAL insight to what some ppl do or go through to cam model. Having to deal with family like parents etc. brings a whole new insight. I always took it for granted that a person had a quiet place to work from, or a studio. You know watch out for their own kid(s) if they had any, locking doors and such.
But there is much more, also the fact that you really enjoy what you are doing and the lengths that you will go through to do what you want.


I mean let it be said that at the very least you are your own boss and that you choose not to work in some call center. I tried a call center one summer years ago and after 4 days I went barking mad and never returned.

I love hearing stories like this that are real. I think you will find a lot of ppl are going to read this thread. Hopefully, they will add their insights into it as well.

 

[Alisa]

Another 22 y/o here, but this time with somewhat different situation. I have a degree in English and German languages and am a successful teacher and a translator (I speak 4 languages, one of them I do not wish to name because it would give away the country I am currently living in). I started camming 1,5 week ago after my friend told me this thing exists. I really never knew that before!
So I started and I LOVE it! I never knew I was such an exhibitionist! I do not only have fun on cam, it actually turns me on to show my body to others. My parents will never know about this because they dont even use internet and I don't live with them. Right now I live in my own apartment and can cam whenever I have time/feel like it. Since I am very busy at work I put 2-3 hours in camming every other day.
I have a bf and I love him with all my heart, he is supposed to move to my city in April and we want to move in together. I have no idea how to tell him about being a camgirl. I mean, I asked him once what would he do if he found a video of me online in pr0n section and he answered with "What am I supposed to do, hun? I'm already ballz deep." Then I asked him what if he found out I'm a camgirl and he said that money is money, that it would be unfair of him to be angry at me because of that.
This is all very promising actually but there is still a question. Should I tell him I really enjoy it? Would he be jealous?
And after we move in I would want to have a room on my own for camming. Would I be expecting too much from him by wanting that much privacy?
I think about this every day and till the day I tell him I will be erasing my history, making passwords all over my computer and hiding my whiteboard from him. I feel dirty but not because of camming, because of lying and hiding things from him. And I am afraid that his reaction won't be as calm as expected. And I hope everything will be alright in the end...
So this is my 50 cent, lying is never easy.

 

[AllisonWilder]

Another 22 y/o here, but this time with somewhat different situation. I have a degree in English and German languages and am a successful teacher and a translator (I speak 4 languages, one of them I do not wish to name because it would give away the country I am currently living in). I started camming 1,5 week ago after my friend told me this thing exists. I really never knew that before!
So I started and I LOVE it! I never knew I was such an exhibitionist! I do not only have fun on cam, it actually turns me on to show my body to others. My parents will never know about this because they dont even use internet and I don't live with them. Right now I live in my own apartment and can cam whenever I have time/feel like it. Since I am very busy at work I put 2-3 hours in camming every other day.
I have a bf and I love him with all my heart, he is supposed to move to my city in April and we want to move in together. I have no idea how to tell him about being a camgirl. I mean, I asked him once what would he do if he found a video of me online in pr0n section and he answered with "What am I supposed to do, hun? I'm already ballz deep." Then I asked him what if he found out I'm a camgirl and he said that money is money, that it would be unfair of him to be angry at me because of that.
This is all very promising actually but there is still a question. Should I tell him I really enjoy it? Would he be jealous?
And after we move in I would want to have a room on my own for camming. Would I be expecting too much from him by wanting that much privacy?
I think about this every day and till the day I tell him I will be erasing my history, making passwords all over my computer and hiding my whiteboard from him. I feel dirty but not because of camming, because of lying and hiding things from him. And I am afraid that his reaction won't be as calm as expected. And I hope everything will be alright in the end...
So this is my 50 cent, lying is never easy.

The longer you wait to tell your boyfriend, the harder it's going to be to come clean and the harder it's going to be for him to hear it. Even if he completely accepts that you're camming, he may not accept that you've been lying and sneaking around behind his back to do so.

 

[Butterflies_forever]

Thank you all for your answers to my post I am feeling relieved that I am not the only one with this type of problem.
LilyMarie - Thank you for your detailed answer. You have given some great tips for secretly camming while living at home. Sadly, because I do online banking, my mother actually has access to my account, so she would be able to check my online bank statements whenever she pleases. If I changed my password for my banking account, she would suspect something is up. So, I have been considering receiving payment in the form of Payoneer, because I have read they can pay you through a prepaid card. I was wondering though, can you use this card through PayPal? Everything I usually buy is online, and most stores will accept PayPal, so it would be much easier if Payoneer is compatible with it
I am prepared to live my cam life as a secret with my parents, as it is so difficult to gain employment currently, and I really just cannot live off government payments anymore, I yearn to be independent.
EvePhoenix - Thanks also for your reply. At this stage, I am feeling grateful I do not have a partner, I could not imagine having to deal with a disapproving boyfriend as well as my parents xD You're right, lying is never easy, and wondering what the other person's reaction would be is a scary thought. I hope you are able to sort out this dilemma, especially if you plan on moving in together.
I mean,it probably is an awful shock at first, finding out your partner/daughter is stripping on the internet. But, the way I see it, it's a lot better than stripping at a bar or actually having sex with a stranger I just wish more people could have this logical view of the whole thing xD

 

[AllisonWilder]

I mean,it probably is an awful shock at first, finding out your partner/daughter is stripping on the internet. But, the way I see it, it's a lot better than stripping at a bar or actually having sex with a stranger I just wish more people could have this logical view of the whole thing xD

I'm pretty sure that you didn't really mean this in any sort of derogatory way, but just so you're aware not only are there camgirls on this forum, there are also strippers, escorts and prostitutes and there's really nothing wrong with any type of sex work.

 

[Butterflies_forever]

Haha, no of course not! I do not believe there is anything wrong with any kind of this work. It was purely meant in the eyes of over protective parents

 

[JerryBoBerry]

^^ That was one of the most interesting posts I've ever read on this board.

I already hit the "thanks" button, but seriously thank you so much for sharing that!

Thanks a lot, I appreciate that! I'm surprised people who are not the OP even read this overly long post.

Anyone that has done something their parents may not approve of and decided to keep it a secret can relate. Most of us have had to make the decision to keep doing it in secret or risk telling and facing the recriminations. I'm not surprised so many read your post. It speaks to a universal experience that goes beyond just the isolated case of doing cam model work.

 

[LadyLuna]

If you are over 18, you have every right to not show your parents what your bank statements look like. I'd open a new account, not with the same bank, and never let them know about it...

I am not sure if paypal accepts payoneer, but I know that you can go to the bank and get the money from your card, then deposit it as cash.

 

[Evvie]

If you are over 18, you have every right to not show your parents what your bank statements look like. I'd open a new account, not with the same bank, and never let them know about it...

I am not sure if paypal accepts payoneer, but I know that you can go to the bank and get the money from your card, then deposit it as cash.

I also came in here to say you should open a new bank account. It takes like five minutes.

My parents have partial access to my bank account (they can see my savings account, but not my checking account; they can deposit money) so I put all my camming checks in to checking and all my restaurant checks in to savings.

 

[Mott_]

^^ That was one of the most interesting posts I've ever read on this board.

I already hit the "thanks" button, but seriously thank you so much for sharing that!

Agreed. Thanks Lily for sharing this.

 

[PinkiePixi]

Im ... anywhere between the ages of 22 and 25... and Im currently living at home with my mother, younger sister, and sometimes step dad. Thankfully I have a good bit of privacy being here, but its still been difficult at times and yes - theres plenty of lying.

They nagged at me to get a job, to get them off my case - I told them that I do freelance graphic design (not difficult to believe based on my degrees). Furthermore - I told them it was for porn sites. I told them this because I knew they wouldnt freak out, because they know (as does anybody) that the porn industry has a lot of money in it, to explain any paychecks I get sent to the house (like Streamate), and to possibly explain why I want privacy while working and why I wont show them any of my work. I also tell them that I Skype regularly with friends from college, or guys, or whatever - so if she hears me talking I can always push it off on that.

She doesnt have access to any of my banking statements, or anything else - so I at least dont need to worry about that. But DO make sure you hide any/all banking statements/receipts for incriminating purchases. DO hide any/all toys. DO avoid buying anything large that you cant hide or come up with an excuse for. DO have a backup plan and excuses because at some point its probably going to be noticed to some degree - and it will probably blow up in your face. I suggest saving every penny you can when you start, so if that blow up means you need to move out (hey, worst case scenario), youll at least have something to work with. I understand how expensive it can be - Im in NYC.

Also remember youll have taxes to pay. So save for those and know that youll have to file them for yourself (or hire a CPA) at the end of the year. I dont know much about doing any of that if shes still claiming you as a dependent but get verified as a model here and in the models only section theres plenty of help for you when the time comes.

Do everything Lily suggested - and dont go buying crazy frivolous things that shell see and you cant explain. Like I really want a monkey rocker or a sybian. I cant hide a monkey rocker, and a sybian is INSANELY loud (at least I would assume). Be wary of loud things you wouldnt assume - like hitachis are crazy loud, in pure silence - any vibrator is crazy loud. Also prize wheels - theyre WAY louder than I had thought it would be. Dont get anything you cant hide, for toys get a big plastic locking tool box, anything larger, try under your bed or in your closet. I put my whiteboard and prize wheel in my closet before I leave the house, just in case.

I do work night hours while theyre all sleeping - which means Im pretty much nocturnal. It also means I need to be fairly quiet - which can be difficult. Best suggestions I have are lock your door, play music as loud as you can get away with (but make sure it sounds ok on cam!), put a blanket or something around the edges of your door, and if you have a fan, put it right next to your door and turn it on. Being nocturnal has its own problems though, the world isnt nocturnal - and your family may be suspicious of why they arent seeing much of you during the day.

Get mail delivered to a neighbor or friends house if you can, tell your mom to bug off if shes nosey about your mail, worst case order a webcam close to a gift giving holiday and tell her its a gift for her so thats why its none of her business.

Go get your own bank account though, its really easy. If she finds out or gets upset - tell her that you want to grow up and its time you start taking care of your own finances. If she gets too upset - well, if it were me - I would tell her to stfu. Its not like youre 12. I can understand her not wanting her baby to work in the sex industry. I think its insanely controlling and ridiculous for her to expect you to forfeit over most aspects of your life to her when youre an adult.

Then again Im also a huge bitch when it comes to them being nosey and my mom aint the nicest peach either. I put up with her controlling every aspect of my life to the point of obsession and near suicidal depression for 18 years. Im not happy I have to live here now, but the second I turned 18 I made sure I distanced myself from her as far as her reign of terror over my livelihood. I would never tell her I cam. I dont honestly think she would care much though - she knows Ive done fetish modeling. I just dont want her finding out while Im living under her roof.

So yeah. Prepare for the worst, be cautious, brush up on your lying skills, and learn how to distance yourself from her a bit.

 

[RedHerby]

That's where the real lies started.

Ok, here it goes, most likely I will get flamed by all independed strong women on this board, like when I told a model "Don't get a boobjob", but still I want to say what I think.

I think you mom is the one who lies now by accepting your explanations, but she knows, moms see it when their child lies, moms are smart, moms know more then you think and moms love you.

Try to get this solved with your mom, get a bottle of booze, or a big choclate-cake or whatever works, sit at the kitchen table and explain, tell her what you love so much from MFC, the attention, the sexuality, the money, whatever, you are passioned in this forum about your job, use that in your talk with your mom.

If not, and after one or more incidents, where she finds out again for the 4th/5th/etc time, it can go terrible wrong and the both of you can't live anymore in the same house, major crashes like that can fuck up your life, losing a school year, loosing contact with your mom, etc. etc. Don't let this happen.

 

[ElaySmith]

That's where the real lies started.

Ok, here it goes, most likely I will get flamed by all independed strong women on this board, like when I told a model "Don't get a boobjob", but still I want to say what I think.

I think you mom is the one who lies now by accepting your explanations, but she knows, moms see it when their child lies, moms are smart, moms know more then you think and moms love you.

Try to get this solved with your mom, get a bottle of booze, or a big choclate-cake or whatever works, sit at the kitchen table and explain, tell her what you love so much from MFC, the attention, the sexuality, the money, whatever, you are passioned in this forum about your job, use that in your talk with your mom.

If not, and after one or more incidents, where she finds out again for the 4th/5th/etc time, it can go terrible wrong and the both of you can't live anymore in the same house, major crashes like that can fuck up your life, losing a school year, loosing contact with your mom, etc. etc. Don't let this happen.

I am sure most of us would love to be able to get "this solved" with our parents/loved ones but for the most part that just isn't the case. Camming gives many of us a sense of pride, empowerment, power, and all sorts or other fuzzy feelings etc. and that is a wonderful thing but to be honest I would have the say the consensus from the general public would be that we are crazy and messed up for feeling this way. That there has to be something wrong with us because we want to show our lady bits to the entire world.

A few of us are lucky that we have supportive families that while they may not be exactly happy with our job choice they are happy that we are happy and that is the most important thing. However more often than not we face quite the opposite reaction. Even if your parents are open minded sometimes they just don't want their daughter getting naked on the internet and no amount of talking or trying to explain will do any good.

Im not saying that is is right to lie but it is also not logical to think that the situation is as easy as you seem to think it is. It is not that black and white, there is way to much gray.

Edit:
Also wanted to add that I speak from both sides of the spectrum. I have some very very supportive family members who take the time to ask how my job is going and will openly talk with me about it and I have also lost quite a bit of family because they just can not understand why I do what I do. In the end I am happy with my choices and they have to live with theirs.

 

[RoxieRed]

:text-yeahthat:

After I started camming, I thought I might ease my parents into the notion and see how it went. I started out by telling my mother that I was thinking about doing pin up modeling. She felt uneasy about me modeling, saying it was risque, and acted weird about it. My mom freaks out when the term "porn star" is mentioned among adults. I can't imagine if I tried to tell her about what I was doing, especially if I was still living at home. I think she'd rather me lie to her.

IMO if Lily's mom does know what is going on (which is likely), she needs to stop snooping through Lily's stuff because I think she WANTS to believe the lies. It's honestly easier for them to get along by both acting ignorant. They probably both know full well what the situation is but are avoiding the sit-down-and-talk-about-it because the ignorance allows room for doubt and a certain amount of pretending to keep things cordial.

 

[RedHerby]

I am sure most of us would love to be able to get "this solved" with our parents/loved ones but for the most part that just isn't the case. Camming gives many of us a sense of pride, empowerment, power, and all sorts or other fuzzy feelings etc. and that is a wonderful thing but to be honest I would have the say the consensus from the general public would be that we are crazy and messed up for feeling this way. That there has to be something wrong with us because we want to show our lady bits to the entire world.

A few of us are lucky that we have supportive families that while they may not be exactly happy with our job choice they are happy that we are happy and that is the most important thing. However more often than not we face quite the opposite reaction. Even if your parents are open minded sometimes they just don't want their daughter getting naked on the internet and no amount of talking or trying to explain will do any good.

Im not saying that is is right to lie but it is also not logical to think that the situation is as easy as you seem to think it is. It is not that black and white, there is way to much gray.

Thanks for the reply, much better expressed then my words (this applies to RoxieRed's posting to).

Almost all responses where like "wow, what a great insight in the life of a cam model" (btw I do share that opinion too, in a way that amazing posting is much more naked then showing your lady bits on cam)

But I saw something else too, a potential personal drama, and that did make me sad, my response to that was to direct, eq "Solve it" and so, I blame my poor english for that.

 

[LilyMarie]

I think you mom is the one who lies now by accepting your explanations, but she knows, moms see it when their child lies, moms are smart, moms know more then you think and moms love you.

I never said my mom's not smart or that she doesn't love me; but she doesn't know I cam. She really doesn't, believe me. The story is too elaborate and detailed and I just know she believes the big offline tipper exists. I've always been able to easily tell when she sees through my lies. In this case she doesn't.

Try to get this solved with your mom, get a bottle of booze, or a big choclate-cake or whatever works, sit at the kitchen table and explain, tell her what you love so much from MFC, the attention, the sexuality, the money, whatever, you are passioned in this forum about your job, use that in your talk with your mom.

It's absolutely not necessary for me to tell my mom that I cam at the moment. Why would I do that? You always have to see the pros vs. the cons.
A pro would be that I won't have a big secret in front of her anymore, taking a weight off my shoulders because I don't have to hide stuff anymore etc.
Cons, on the other hand, would be that a) it would make her very upset and give her bad feelings - I don't want to inflict bad feelings upon her, b) it would put a strain, tension and awkwardness on our relationship, c) from now on she would have a secret in front of our other relatives; another burden for her.
As you can see, there's no point in telling her... at all.

If not, and after one or more incidents, where she finds out again for the 4th/5th/etc time, it can go terrible wrong and the both of you can't live anymore in the same house, major crashes like that can fuck up your life, losing a school year, loosing contact with your mom, etc. etc. Don't let this happen.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'she finds out again'... She already knows I've been getting money from MFC. Whether I got it from camming, or from this one guy through offline tips, is something she can't prove/disprove. I assume by 'find out again' you mean find out that I still cam, right?
- Nope, if she found out, that would not fuck up my life (it would take something way bigger than that to fuck up my life), I wouldn't lose a school year (...why would I stop going to school? That'd be crazy and stupid, don't you think so? School's important), and I wouldn't lose contact with her, she's not the type to cut out her own child from her life over something like this. The worst thing that could happen would be that she'd kick me out of the house, probably mainly because I lied to her for such a long time and not because of the actual camming.

Thanks for trying to give me advice, I do appreciate it, but like I said telling my mom would hurt and not help.

 

[bob]

She might never accept it......
But camming has changed my life, and to be honest I wouldn't give it up even if my mother kicked me out of the house.

this may be a huge pill for your momma to swallow....but it's almost inevitable that we disappoint our parents at some point....it's the only way they seem to be able to accept that we are ourselves.

that was a great post :thumbleft:

 

[RedHerby]

.... moms are smart, moms know more then you think and moms love you.

I never said my mom's not smart or that she doesn't love me;

I know, that was a statement how I think about moms.

I assume by 'find out again' you mean find out that I still cam, right?

Correct

I wouldn't lose a school year (...why would I stop going to school? That'd be crazy and stupid, don't you think so?

I was projecting myself to the situation that I would loose contact with my family, how much impact that would have to me when I was at your age.

Thanks for trying to give me advice, I do appreciate it, but like I said telling my mom would hurt and not help.

Ok, it's so obvious thats its a bit silly to say it, but there is only one person that can make this call, you. Thanks for sharing your feelings with this forum.

 

[Just Me]

That's where the real lies started.

Ok, here it goes, most likely I will get flamed by all independed strong women on this board, like when I told a model "Don't get a boobjob", but still I want to say what I think.

I think you mom is the one who lies now by accepting your explanations, but she knows, moms see it when their child lies, moms are smart, moms know more then you think and moms love you.

Try to get this solved with your mom, get a bottle of booze, or a big choclate-cake or whatever works, sit at the kitchen table and explain, tell her what you love so much from MFC, the attention, the sexuality, the money, whatever, you are passioned in this forum about your job, use that in your talk with your mom.

If not, and after one or more incidents, where she finds out again for the 4th/5th/etc time, it can go terrible wrong and the both of you can't live anymore in the same house, major crashes like that can fuck up your life, losing a school year, loosing contact with your mom, etc. etc. Don't let this happen.

I know what you are saying but I think you are being a little naive. Families no longer talk to each other for lesser reasons than cam modeling. While we might be able to talk to our families about something like this, we are probably in in the minority. It is not the best situation to have to lie sometimes but if it is about something that is really no ones business but your own and you are not being hurt or hurting someone in the process, sometimes it might be better to lie. I also think that many models would be surprised at the understanding parents can have if you are honest and explain more about the process and what you get out of it. But, that is not a decision that any of us can make for them. :twocents-02cents:

 

[BlondieXDoll]

I guess in a way I'm surprised to see how many people have their parents checking up on their bank account etc. If it wasn't for my boyfriend I wouldn't be able to do camming. Thankfully for me this whole thing was his idea. He knew it would be something I would enjoy and introduced me to it. I get my check sent to his apartment. So my parents have no idea what I'm doing. They've always been very understanding of what I do but since doing mfc is just mostly a fun thing on the side I haven't really told them about it. I guess I'm banking on what mamma don't know can't hurt her.

 

[Rose]

Re whiteboards: You can have a whiteboard and 'get away' with leaving it out. My solution, write chores or appointments on it.

I leave mine hanging in the middle of the living room where anyone who visits will see it. When I do something with camming that requires names to be written on it, I take a picture of the board or write everything that was on it on a piece of paper and then hide the paper and erase the board. The rest of the time I leave stuff like take out trash, finish dishes, milk expires 2/15, doctor's appointment 2/18, so it just looks like a chore and reminder board and isn't suspicious at all. :thumbleft: When I was still in school, I'd leave the names of my homework assignments and their due dates or similar things on it.

Nobody would ever guess that 2 hours earlier there were genitals and random screen names scribbled all over it. :dance:

 

[Jessi]

I just wanted to second (third? fourth?) that any girls who are of legal age open a new bank account. You dont need to get statements, cheques, or even tell your parents you have it. Just have YOUR money wired to YOUR account. Snooping into someone's bank account without consent is illegal in many places.

 

[VeronicaChaos]

I just wanted to second (third? fourth?) that any girls who are of legal age open a new bank account. You dont need to get statements, cheques, or even tell your parents you have it. Just have YOUR money wired to YOUR account. Snooping into someone's bank account without consent is illegal in many places.

I also want to mention, when I got my own bank account not attached to my parents when I moved, it was a HUGE step up for me in becoming an independent adult. I think anyone in the adult industry should be adults, and having your own bank account is one of the first adult things one can do. :thumbleft: It was very empowering, and really super easy.

 

[Rose]

I just wanted to second (third? fourth?) that any girls who are of legal age open a new bank account. You dont need to get statements, cheques, or even tell your parents you have it. Just have YOUR money wired to YOUR account. Snooping into someone's bank account without consent is illegal in many places.

The sooner you do that, the sooner you can do things like start working towards building yourself a good credit score too. :thumbleft:

 

[Teagan]

If for some reason you cant get your own bank account on your own I will tell you that you can transfer payonner money to paypal. But you have to have 2 paypal accounts to do so. You basically hook one up to your payoneer card and bill that account from your main account you want the money to go to. But you're paying payoneer fees and paypal fees in that case. So it is best to get your own account of you can and go wireless so they dont send you statements ever.

I can say my mom is one of the worst judgmental snoopy people ever. It didnt matter that I was 22 living at home, she still went through ever single thing I owned on a daily basis. (Nevermind it was because of her I was even still back there.) Shed say it was to make sure i wasnt doing anything i wasnt supposed to, but it was just lies. She's a terrible person. I could never cam at home if i was living there. There would be no way. A webcam would not be allowed, nor would sex toys, nor would a door being locked or unopenable at any time. If she found anything adult related I would have ended up homeless instantly and beaten badly beforehand. She used to freak if you just closed your door and locks werent allowed. She would wake up in the middle of the night and open your door if it was closed. If you put something against it she would start pounding on it screaming bloody murder. If you had a lockbox or anything locked (diary included) she would make you instantly open it in front of her so she could go through it and question you then throw away the locks. Some parents are not very understanding and have no privacy boundaries at any time no matter how old you are. Im glad you arent in a situation like that it seems, but i suggest taking some of the girls advice here on how to hide it and what to do or say if she finds out.

 

[MadisonGraceLloyd]

If for some reason you cant get your own bank account on your own I will tell you that you can transfer payonner money to paypal. But you have to have 2 paypal accounts to do so. You basically hook one up to your payoneer card and bill that account from your main account you want the money to go to. But you're paying payoneer fees and paypal fees in that case. So it is best to get your own account of you can and go wireless so they dont send you statements ever.

I can say my mom is one of the worst judgmental snoopy people ever. It didnt matter that I was 22 living at home, she still went through ever single thing I owned on a daily basis. (Nevermind it was because of her I was even still back there.) Shed say it was to make sure i wasnt doing anything i wasnt supposed to, but it was just lies. She's a terrible person. I could never cam at home if i was living there. There would be no way. A webcam would not be allowed, nor would sex toys, nor would a door being locked or unopenable at any time. If she found anything adult related I would have ended up homeless instantly and beaten badly beforehand. She used to freak if you just closed your door and locks werent allowed. She would wake up in the middle of the night and open your door if it was closed. If you put something against it she would start pounding on it screaming bloody murder. If you had a lockbox or anything locked (diary included) she would make you instantly open it in front of her so she could go through it and question you then throw away the locks. Some parents are not very understanding and have no privacy boundaries at any time no matter how old you are. Im glad you arent in a situation like that it seems, but i suggest taking some of the girls advice here on how to hide it and what to do or say if she finds out.

I think our mums are related :shock: